Life Without Judgment

February 21, 2017

As I move along my grief journey, I continue to find the days unpredictable. Every once in a while I fall apart for no discernable reason, sobbing when driving by myself, yelling when I’m alone in the house, spent from raw emotion, struggling to pull myself together fo...

November 3, 2016

During the course of my cancer treatment, which from diagnosis to last day of radiation lasted about ten months, I didn’t connect with the war metaphors that constantly surround the discussion of cancer. That language often annoyed me, actually, because most of the tim...

July 14, 2016

When you are diagnosed with cancer and go into treatment, people often find you courageous. It happens all over, with every type of cancer. In fact, a Google search for cancer and courage generates over 28 million hits.

I struggled with the cancer-courage link when maki...

April 25, 2016

So. Four months have passed, and four friends are gone.


January – lymphoma.

February – brain cancer.

March – metastatic kidney cancer.

April – metastatic breast cancer.


Some local residents, some not. One man, three women. Three adults (all too young) and one teenager (fa...

March 26, 2016

I have a question, or three, for you to answer – not for me, but for yourself.

What are you not giving yourself permission to feel right now?

What is it costing you at this moment, not to feel it?

What would happen if you let it out?

We humans often lock up one or more emo...

November 8, 2015

The latest doubt expressed in the cancer world is in regards to the mammogram, long (and still) the most commonly available and utilized screening method for breast cancer. Although we have ultrasound and MRI technology, those methods – especially the MRI – are not rou...

March 10, 2015

Readers of the cancer blog I kept before I needed to add grief to the mix -- No defeat baby, no surrender -- may recall my response to Bill Keller's NYT op-ed about Lisa Boncheck Adams, a cancer patient who chronicled her experience online via blog posts and tweets.  I...

March 2, 2015

One morning last week I woke up angry and with a headache, the kind that seems to live both inside and outside of your skull, enveloping your head in a cloud of low-grade but insistent pain.  I wondered why. Oddly, it still takes me a little time, when I wake up with a...

February 16, 2015

I’ve always hated to say “I can’t.” Almost as much as I hate for it to be true.


For as long as I can remember, I’ve been determined to do anything and everything that I was asked of me (or that I asked of myself).  Until recent years I could overcome virtually any ener...

January 25, 2015

Those of you who know me personally know how energized I am by my interactions with other people in any type of situation, professional or personal. I’m constantly being dragged out of a gathering by my children as I try to finish up several dangling conversations. Eve...

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