Life Without Judgment

August 2, 2016

It happens all the time.

Bereaved parents hear it:

At least you have another child.

At least you could get pregnant again.

People who lost a loved one to a difficult illness hear it:

At least he isn’t suffering anymore.

At least she is out of pain.

People who lost a loved one...

June 20, 2016

Over the last few weeks as I have walked through the minutes and days of June, a thought has run through my mind. One particular thought – over and over – as I spent time with my brother’s family on his birthday, heard about tragic loss of life in Orlando, experienced...

August 16, 2015

The more I write about crisis, the more people tell me stories about things that have happened to them. Every once in a while a type of story reaches critical mass in my mental collection and I’m compelled to write about it.  This is one of those times.


So, here’s a th...

June 14, 2015

Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook, lost her husband Dave Goldberg, CEO of SurveyMonkey, just over a month ago when he died at age 47. He was exercising at a resort while vacationing with Sandberg and their young children. Apparently he sustained blunt force trauma to th...

May 17, 2015



Recently I went on a business trip and picked up a copy of Cheryl Strayed’s Wild in an airport bookstore. Several people have told me that it’s a movie I should see, and I had subsequently written it down on a list of “movies I should see,” but if a movie is adapted...

April 9, 2015

A bitter drink: Introduce sugar, and the whole drink becomes sweet.

A cold bath: Introduce hot water, and the whole bath becomes warm.

A sad person: Introduce things to be happy about, and…the whole person becomes…what?


I have been puzzling over how to describe what effe...

February 4, 2015

"How are you doing?” 


The question is ubiquitous, often innocent, and generally well-meaning.  In the middle of or after a personal crisis, it can become nearly unanswerable.  Although those words often simply mean “hello,” I don’t hear them that way anymore.  I hear t...

January 25, 2015

Those of you who know me personally know how energized I am by my interactions with other people in any type of situation, professional or personal. I’m constantly being dragged out of a gathering by my children as I try to finish up several dangling conversations. Eve...

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