Life Without Judgment

September 11, 2016

It starts before you even begin to accept what has happened. Almost immediately, as you try to wrap your brain around the loss, the logistics come roaring to the forefront. We don’t talk much about the tasks and responsibilities that accompany death. We handle them pri...

July 23, 2016

A week ago this morning, I set myself up on my deck with a cup of coffee, the day’s newspaper, and my computer, thinking I would catch up on the news and do some writing. Then I opened my Facebook feed to find a post that seemed so impossible I thought someone had hack...

June 20, 2016

Over the last few weeks as I have walked through the minutes and days of June, a thought has run through my mind. One particular thought – over and over – as I spent time with my brother’s family on his birthday, heard about tragic loss of life in Orlando, experienced...

May 15, 2016

It’s amazing to me how hard it is to predict how I will react in a given situation, or how I will be coping on a particular day or at a certain moment. I thought it would get more predictable and manageable over time. Maybe enough time hasn’t passed to qualify as the “...

April 25, 2016

So. Four months have passed, and four friends are gone.

 

January – lymphoma.

February – brain cancer.

March – metastatic kidney cancer.

April – metastatic breast cancer.

 

Some local residents, some not. One man, three women. Three adults (all too young) and one teenager (fa...

February 2, 2016

My hair looks different to me lately.  Over the last few months, it has become puffier on the top – oddly, only on the top.  My hair is fairly long and not thick, so the additional puffiness is noticeable, at least to me.  Investigating the cause, I found I have quite...

January 22, 2016

The day after my brother died, I started writing everything pertaining to him and his death in a blank book. Much of what I recorded is practical information ranging from insurance agent emails to funeral director phone numbers. The rest is a jumble of things I want to...

November 24, 2015

Here we are once again on the verge of the holiday season, with many preparing to celebrate both secular and religious holidays in the next couple of months.  Like many people who have lost someone they love, I am wary – to say the least – of what the holidays will bri...

September 25, 2015

On a business trip last winter, I got into a car to drive from Austin to Dallas, TX. I had all sorts of intentions for how I would spend my drive time – find an NPR affiliate, catch up with people on the phone, troll local stations for good music, and so on.  But after...

July 20, 2015

A friend was at my house on the fourth of July, and we were talking in the kitchen while I made a salad. As I started peeling a vegetable over the trashcan, her face lit up. She told me that ever since a particular Passover seder years ago, she thinks of me when she us...

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