Life Without Judgment

So utterly alone. So completely connected.

The day after my brother died, I started writing everything pertaining to him and his death in a blank book. Much of what I recorded is practical information ranging from insurance agent emails to funeral director phone numbers. The rest is a jumble of things I want to remember, such as names of Frank’s friends and titles of books people have recommended. Within this jumble is a list of people I know who have lost a sibling. I found myself compelled to generate this list – and to maintain it, because it is growing as time goes on. My loss has connected me to the people on this list instantly and intensely. Although some are people whose losses I was aware of before June of 2014, and a few

Energy lives on.

Yesterday, I received a gift when a friend and former colleague of Frank’s shared something he had written about him. Jon Kolko is an artist and design strategist with a particular interest in humanizing educational technology. In this piece he talks about a concept that Frank taught him – simplicity on the other side of complexity – that has resonated with him and continued to inform his work and teaching. I won’t go into detail about it here, because Jon says it so much better than I could, and I hope you will click on the link and read what he wrote. What I will talk about, though, is the gift. Reading Jon’s writing, I could only conclude that the energy that used to occupy the form of my


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