My brother died on a highway. I have often thought about traveling to the location where he spent his last moment alive. I am unsure whether I will actually do it. I don’t know when I would go, what I would do there, and what the experience would mean to me. What I do know is that I have a choice. I can choose to go, or not to go, depending on what I decide serves me best. Places are one of several types of grief triggers I’ve experienced. Sometimes, you can opt to avoid a di

It happens all the time. Bereaved parents hear it: At least you have another child. At least you could get pregnant again. People who lost a loved one to a difficult illness hear it: At least he isn’t suffering anymore. At least she is out of pain. People who lost a loved one in an instant hear it: At least she didn’t suffer. At least he died instantly. People who lost an adult sibling hear it: At least you had so many wonderful years with your sister. At least you and your b