Grief and weather
I know people whose emotions fluctuate in response to the weather, but I never used to be one of them. Similar to what my father calls a...
Something will always be wrong
Not long ago, I had one of those days. They come along periodically, and randomly, it seems. I wake up with a nagging sensation of...
What could be helpful to say?
When someone close to a friend or family member dies, we often wonder: What can I possibly say? We wrestle with our sadness and...
Climbing my Dawn Wall
As I move along my grief journey, I continue to find the days unpredictable. Every once in a while I fall apart for no discernable...
Grief is a long game
I am a goal-oriented person. I think this is because I have a gene for it, although it may be a combination of nature and nurture. My...
The shadow side of survivorship
You may have heard of the phenomenon known as “survivor guilt" (described at this link by What's Your Grief). It’s fairly well documented...
The ongoing work of coping with loss
Would that the work of grieving were more like shoveling snow... This past weekend brought the biggest snowfall of the winter so far,...
It's New Year's Day. Grief doesn't know, or care.
Grief follows no timeline. Grief follows nothing. Grief forges its own path. Once again it’s January 1 — traditionally, a day people use...
E-mail, and other ways people live on
Fact: I do not manage my inbox effectively. When I receive an urgent e-mail, something related to work or my children or a health issue,...
A griever's guide to Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving, a holiday that many find tough to negotiate after someone they love has died, is once again around the corner. This is my...