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What could be helpful to say?
When someone close to a friend or family member dies, we often wonder: What can I possibly say? We wrestle with our sadness and...
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The hole we cannot fill
This past weekend I attended the annual fall meeting of the Board of Directors of the Bereaved Parents of the USA. One of the topics...
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To my (late) brother on his birthday
Here we are again. It’s your birthday, and you’re not here. For the second time since you were taken too soon from this earth because of...
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Thank you, Lisa Bonchek Adams
Readers of the cancer blog I kept before I needed to add grief to the mix -- No defeat baby, no surrender -- may recall my response to...