On crying
The other afternoon I was doing something entirely mundane – driving to the ShopRite to grab some milk and grapes and eggs – and a song...
Motion can help.
For a while now I’ve been thinking through the different coping strategies I use, day in and day out, hour by hour, to stay as functional...
If you want to take people somewhere else, first meet them where they are
The more I write about crisis, the more people tell me stories about things that have happened to them. Every once in a while a type of...
Take out the trash, smile at a person, stop at a STOP sign, save the world.
On a Saturday afternoon in June of 2011, our friend and neighbor Sunil Badlani was driving his son Nikhil home from a lesson. Less than...
Tell the whole story, keep the whole person
It’s common to idealize a loved one who has died. From what I can tell, this idealization is a natural reaction, although I’m not exactly...
People stay close in everyday ways
A friend was at my house on the fourth of July, and we were talking in the kitchen while I made a salad. As I started peeling a vegetable...
Wish I could ask Frank...
As of June 21, it has been one year since my brother died. One year since my final opportunity to talk to him, one year since he was...
For Sheryl Sandberg: Rethinking the drive to optimize
Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook, lost her husband Dave Goldberg, CEO of SurveyMonkey, just over a month ago when he died at age 47. He...
Make a "what's real now" list
I am reading a book entitled The Lake, which was written by a friend I’ve known since the sixth grade. The central character, Zach, had...
On Memorial Day: Training continues
On this Memorial Day, I am thinking of my husband’s great-uncle. I have thought of him often over the past eleven months since my...